Self-Care Through Self-Love: 5 Guests Share Their Secrets l S2E092

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Foreign

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welcome back to A Call for Love. And if you're new

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here, I welcome you. Thank you for joining in. I'm

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so grateful you found your way to this place.

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And today we're going to explore what it means to

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choose love, to choose peace and joy.

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And especially in those moments when fear, stress or

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anxiety take over, which is not fun. But

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that's what we're going to really dive into today. Because growth

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is always available to us. And when we root

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ourselves in compassion and connection,

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I do believe we begin to create a life that

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truly reflects who. Who we are in this moment and who

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we're becoming. Because we're always evolving. And today's

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episode is a beautiful reflection of that. My name

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is Linda Orsini, and today we're going to do something a little

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different, something really special. So over the past

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year, I've had the honor of sitting with some really

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incredible, wise and open hearted guests,

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colleagues, friends and people who have now

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become friends. And they have lived

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through their transformation, their stories,

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their joys, and everything in between. And there's one

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question that I've been asking the guests who come

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onto a call for love, and it is, how do you follow

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a call for love in your life? Because I believe that when

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we really pause and ask this of ourselves, we.

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When we really tune in to what love

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is asking us. And love is the highest vibration,

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and we're not always in that state, but it's something that we're striving

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for. I feel, and I've noticed and even

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the guests have shared that something begins to shift.

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I often tell my clients, we heal through our stories,

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but we are not our stories. And when we tell our

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stories, we work through it. And that

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talking and that sharing can bring it to light. Instead of

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pushing it under and sweeping it under the rug,

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we hold space for it. And while

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we're not the stories, it's often

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those rawest, most real moments that

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love calls us back home, right? It calls us back home to

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ourselves, to presence and to compassion.

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Especially when that fear or stress or

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doubt take over. They take over and it becomes too

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much. Today we've gathered some of those

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powerful answers. This is a collection.

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It's a collective offering, a tapestry of voices from

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past episodes, and each one responding to that

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one question. I invite you to settle in and

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just feel and receive the wisdom of these

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beautiful guests, each sharing how they answer

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their own call for love. Because sometimes

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hearing someone else's story is the exact medicine

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we didn't know we needed. Let's begin

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episode 85 Living Unfiltered

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the courage to show up as yourself with. With Maggie

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Habieda and Sandra Tadros Guirguis. You know,

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you're. You couldn't have said it better, Linda. How we spend our

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time is really how we spend our lives, right? What is that

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expression of it takes 10,000 hours to master something.

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So, wow, that could be self care, meditation, a new

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language, or it could be love full of call of duty. Right. So

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you can choose how you spend. Your time, but just knowing that where you

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spend a lot of time is really ultimately how you're living, like you said, and

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do we need that call? So you asked us kind of about our theme

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or word and how I have been really

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intentionally trying to live has been around the word

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surrender. And I came across this often, you

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know, in faith and in different walks. And I came across a Hebrew

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translation that I loved so much because it said,

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contrary to what we may think, surrender doesn't mean doing nothing.

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It just means relinquishing control. And so as

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someone who's very type A, I'm constantly just like running

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forward, right. But my Christian faith is very important to me.

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And so I've kind of resolved to say, okay, what if

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I try to practice humility and stillness.

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One of my good friends in my prayer group actually has the Bible verse be

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still, like tattooed like right here. She's the same kind of

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temperament as me. And she says, you know, multiple times a day I see it

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on my hand and I'm like, okay, be still and know, right? So I

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think practicing stillness and humility is a constant

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goal for me. And trying to really, and I've noticed it this year,

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trying not to force anything, still going

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for everything in every direction, but trying to, to see where I'm

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led, if that makes sense, and to not be trying to

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dictates how everything will go. Yeah. So what I hear you

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saying that you surrender to not only your higher self,

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but a higher source. Yes. Guide you. Exactly.

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Yeah. Which is really intentional, like,

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and it's such a beautiful intention because when we work from

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our egoic mind, you know, there's layers

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and layers of past conditioning and worry and fear and

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socialization. But when we

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really hold space for that inner

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divine wisdom, we can live so much

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better. So that was beautiful, Sandra. Thank you. And

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Maggie, what do you think?

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Linda? Sandra and. And

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anybody who's listening, my biggest word still is

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you have it in your name is love. Love

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is called for love. And next

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to it is authentic. I have gone. I

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think all of us were going through, I don't know, but

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many I've been talking to, everybody's looking inwards

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involution. And what I have

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learned over the past few years is that

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we got to be authentic to ourselves, speak our

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truth. And speaking truth doesn't mean, you know, other times you're lying

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far away from that. It means that I used to be, like,

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shy and afraid to say what I really wanted to say. And

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I'm very big on that. You got to speak, you got to

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stand up for yourself. You've got to, you know, just be very

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authentic. And more than ever before,

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that word resonates with me because I express

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that through my art, through

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capturing people. And you know how I'll say this? Because

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this is we in the world of filters, and

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filters equals mask. And. And.

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And it's like, you know, especially in business, like in art, like

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when I create fine art pieces, you know, it could be

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very. It could be fantasy. You can be whoever you want to. It's

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an art, right? It's an expression of some kind. But in business, portraits,

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it should be authentic, it should be real. Because, you know,

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I think it's like the new luxury today. It's

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being real, expressing yourself, because it

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connects us on a different level. And that kind of energy

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and combined with love is. Is huge

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for me. It's like. It's a. It's. It's just like,

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you know, it's a beautiful. That just

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brings us to a different. What do you call this? Just

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like a different level, different frequency altogether.

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So that's me at this point in my life. Episode

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84 Making Peace with your thoughts with

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Sam Manchulenko. So I suffer if I

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before, I usually suffer first, unless I'm

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wiser and, you know, more awake in that moment and catch it. But

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usually when I slip out, I don't notice at first, and there's a little bit

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of suffering. And then when I'm fortunate

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enough to recognize I'm suffering, great,

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then I. I can use my tools. I'll share. For

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example, I had a headache last week,

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and I noticed, you know, trying to sleep. I was trying to push on one

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side of the head and trying to go child's pose. How can I make these

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sensations go away? And then I thought, oh, you're at war with this.

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Don't be at war with this. And then I was like,

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okay, stop calling it a headache. It's fine.

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Sometimes it can be helpful for people to label things if they're not so

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charged. But to me, a headache is A sentence. I have a big story

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about what it means to have a headache. And so I let go of that

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and instead I went right into the sensations

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in my head and allowed myself to experience them,

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pretending which actually they were. There's only the present moment. These are

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the first imagine. This is the first time you're ever in a body. These

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are the first sensations you've ever experienced. What

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is it like? And when I went in with that curiosity

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and actually felt the sensations in my head, there

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wasn't pain anymore. Katie often says all

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pain is remembered or anticipated. So

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when I have an idea, I remember different sensations

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in my head that I thought were so called better.

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That comparison creates the suffering of these sensations

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or imagining in the future that there'll be a sensation that I don't want to

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have all pain remembered or anticipated. But when I got really

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still and went right into the sensations, there

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wasn't pain, there was sensation and it was expansive.

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So I, I do the same. I try to do the same

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with the emotions, with the thoughts. I used to really try to run

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away from sadness. And now when there's

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sadness, I'm like, oh, hey, hi, sadness. What does it feel like to be

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sad? And you know, I

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just let it do what it needs to do, but not feeding it,

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not saying this is because X, Y, Z. But befriending

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it, actually allowing the experience. Episode

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77 grief and staying connected to

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Loved Ones in Spirit with Lyndsay Jenkinson.

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The two main things that I do is I

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believe in getting out with nature, getting your feet on the grass, getting

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grounded. That's very important for me.

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The other thing that I will do is I will meditate because I feel

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that that is just my mind goes a mile a minute. And sometimes

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meditating helps to just slow things down and get any anxiety or,

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or worry out of there. Any doubt, any lower vibration.

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And then sometimes when I'm really stuck, I will look for

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a workshop or something that will help me. And I have to say

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I loved. I did your breathing workshop last

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weekend and I loved that. And I would highly recommend something

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like that for people to do, to have a release. Because

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you know, you're maybe you're blocked, right? And that's why the negative energies are

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blocking you. Episode

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79ft First Reflexology

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for Holistic Healing with Carrie Chilcott

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I do a lot of breath work. I also do listen

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to frequencies and my favorite, my ultimate,

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ultimate favorite place to get connected and regrounded and just

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align. Everything in my body is being out in the grass. I'll take my feet,

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my shoes off and I'll stand in the, in the grass or the dirt

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and I'll just let the earth heal me because it is so important.

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We can go on a whole nother topic on grounding. I can go there,

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but it's so beneficial for me and I just. I don't listen

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to the news, I don't listen to other things out

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there. I always, for the highest and the best, raise the vibration. Whether

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I sing, whether I drum, you know, whatever I'm doing.

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I can't wait to do your class by the way too, when you get back.

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It's so exciting. And yoga, I'm sorry, but I really love yoga. I

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started yoga when I was 17 and I never. Off and on,

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I've gone off a little bit. But I've always, always, always been in my heart

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for yoga. I think it's brilliant for body, mind and

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spirit. It's a practice on and off the mat.

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Yes. All the time. And do I have ego? Yes,

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sometimes I do. I'm going to say that because that's my human side. That's why

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I say my humans coming out. So sorry about my humans coming

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out. But I try to stay in the love and I

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really. And I love that you stay in the love because it's so important. If

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you looked at my room right now, there's hearts, there's lot. It says love

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everywhere. Episode 71 the

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Sufi Path of love with Ayeda Husain.

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That's such a good question. Because a lot of people believe that

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the moment you have a difficult emotion, need to cover it up

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with a positive thought, that's called spiritual bypassing. We're not going to

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do that. First step is to really acknowledge

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whatever feeling has come up. Is it pain?

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Were you triggered by something disturbing you saw which perhaps connected to

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something that happened in the past? Really sit with the

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feeling and then we try to release it.

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You're going to feel the difficult emotion without

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getting caught up in it. Then of course we have

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our methods of moving past it. I can tell you what I do.

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Please, for me, sacred music will

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lift me up out of any dark place I'm

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ever in meditation. And my zikr,

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zikr Z I k r is Sufi chanting.

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So one of the things we chant is.

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And we are chanting different names which are qualities

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and attributes. So there's a zikr for a broken heart.

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There's a zikr to cultivate more compassion.

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There's a zikr to cultivate more power. So we dive

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into These names to guide us.

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Are these names sound vibrations? Yes, absolutely.

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These are all. Arabic is a root language. That

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means they were not created by humans. And these are all

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sounds which were revealed so often, you may not even know what

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the sounds mean, what the words mean. But

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just chanting them has a healing effect

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on your entire being. Not just your body, but your mind,

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your body, your heart and your soul. This is incredible

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healing that takes place through the chanting. I do use

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whirling, not as much as I do the

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other modalities, but I teach whirling and I do whirl.

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And whirling is incredible because if you think about what's

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happening, you have one hand facing up, one hand

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facing down, your head to the right, so the heart is

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exposed and you're turning. That means you're receiving from

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the divine, your conduit, and you're giving to the world.

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And the heart is where everything is coming. So when you

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turn counterclockwise, you are turning

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same direction as the way the

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planet circle. The sun, the atoms, the

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molecules, everything in the world is circling

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counterclockwise. So you are again becoming in sync

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with the divine nature. And you say that your

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heart is a sun and your body is a

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planet. You're going to circle it again. It all comes back

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to the heart. Every practice, anything, we can really dissect it.

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Everything in Sufism comes back to the heart. You're going to

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circle your heart. That means the heart comes

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before mind, knowledge. The

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heart is the center of the universe. The heart is what we

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pay homage to. The heart is what we listen to.

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Love is the only lasting thing. At the end of the day, what

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else matters? Each

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of these conversations left an imprint in my heart. And

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I hope they touch yours too. Here's to

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remembering who we are, not through perfection,

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but through love. From my heart to

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yours, Namaste.