Through The Cracks, The Light Gets In l S1E038

Linda Orsini: 00:00:08

Hello and welcome to a call for love. I believe the most powerful gift you can offer yourself is to give and receive love more freely. I'm your host Linda Orisini meditation guidance spiritual coach. Everyone has the desire to be seen, heard, respected and loved. The journey to becoming more connected to your greater purpose lies within the ability to live from the deep source of love within you. Let's begin.

Linda Orsini: 00:00:40

Welcome back to my listeners a call for love to those joining in for the first time. I'm so happy you found this podcast, I know resonate with you because we all want to live better, healthier in our mind, body and spirit. And this is the podcast that really shares the message. If you're in a place of stress, anxiety, fear, anger, jealousy, resentment, then there's a call for love. There's a call to notice when you are out of alignment to come into love. So this is a call for love. Welcome. I'm your host, Linda Ursini. And today we delve into the profound message within Leonard Cohen's timeless song anthem. I'm not sure if you're familiar with Leonard Cohen. But he was a brilliant musician, and really poet, he created so many inspiring pieces of work. So join me as we uncover how our imperfections and cracks can actually be gateways to experiencing and sharing love in his purest form. And that's what I'm all about. I'm about living in our highest vibration of love and light. Newsflash, I certainly know for myself, none of us are perfect. It's a universal truth. That yes, as human beings, we are doing the best we can be it we are imperfect, and we do have flaws. But there is the beautiful part. In knowing that we have choice, we have choice to shift our perspective, and embrace the journey of becoming the best versions of ourselves, tapping into the our highest self tapping into the inherent perfection within us. I often say we are perfect whole and complete. When we know we are connected to source, when we know our we are connected to our higher selves. So in Leonard Cohen's song anthem, there's a very, very famous quote, and it goes like this ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering, there is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in. So these lyrics hold up powerful message. They remind us that our cracks, our cracks are our vulnerabilities. Our imperfections, are really something to be not hidden, but to open up to, in order for us to fix for us to heal from. And these openings, we can allow a gentle loving kindness to self compassion into ourselves into our lives. I have had many cracks in my life. As we all have, everyone has a story to say, a story that they've lived through, that has been very painful. But when we allow, and we make the decision, to not hold on to the pain, but to move through the pain, and allow the light to shine in. Then as it is so hard often said, things do not happen to us, but they happen for us, if we can let go of that real bitterness and that victimhood and really shift to finding the gift in the crisis. And knowing with support, we can move forward, we can heal, please refer back to Episode 28. If you would like to hear a in depth discussion about how to let go and the importance of letting go. I would like us to take a moment and reflect where are your cracks? What aspects of yourself? Do you consider imperfect or flood?

Linda Orsini: 00:04:43

Now it could be emotional wounds, insecurities, or even past mistakes. So if you feel your heart center or your stomach or your chest clenching, just take a deep breath in. Exhale, let the breath go I'm inviting you to see if you can just asking yourself if you can open or soften into those cracks, and see them as opportunities for love. Loving kindness to yourself in order to share it outwards. Instead of seeing them as weaknesses, can you reframe them as gateways to deepen the connections to understanding that your highest self is really that of love and light, because you are one with creation, we are all on this earthly plane, as spiritual beings, as people with heart with soul. And when we connect with that essence, when we believe that we are, then we can invite more loving kindness into the cracks, and the edges soften, allowing the painful jetting chain of all those emotions, to really soften to allow the light in. Because love is a universal desire, we all want to be loved, we all want to be seen, we all want to want to be respected, and we all want to be heard. But often, we believe we need to be perfect to be worthy of love. We actually strive for an attainable, ideal ideals that are actually illusionary and in doing so we neglect our authentic selves. But when we can embrace our cracks, we actually open ourselves up to the truest essence of love. So consider this, the people who have made the biggest impact on our lives are rarely those who appear flawless. And this is one of the problems with social media, because everyone looks like they're living their best life. But you're not seeing them behind the doors backstage, where they're really struggling. And I do notice even myself that this is, is can be really hurtful. When I am in a low vibration when I am down, scrolling through social media does not pick myself up. No, just reminds myself of how down I am. Because it seems like everyone's living their best life and I'm in the slums of emotional upheaval. It's those times that I stepped back, that I get out into nature

Linda Orsini: 00:07:43

that I meditate that I do my sound meditation, Reiki, healing, and journaling. And all those modalities that speak to me, your modalities will speak to you, but those speak to me. And then when I can listen to the inner stirrings of my soul to my being, and just let go of my ego, let go of the illusions of all these conceptions I have made to all the pain points in my life, or in a specific emotion or situation, then I can allow the light to draw in. I find that when I'm kinder to myself, I can be kinder to others. When I can embrace my imperfections, and allow love to flow through me, I can touch the lives of others. Now let's bring this idea closer to home. Reflect on your own life and think about how you can use your cracks to cultivate love within yourself and in your relationships. Perhaps your experiences of pain and resilience can help you empathize with other people's struggles. Maybe your own journey of self acceptance can inspire those around you to do the same. But know that when we embrace our cracks, it's an act of self love of self compassion. It really means accepting ourselves fully with all our imperfections, and recognizing that it is through our vulnerabilities that we can truly connect with others. It is through our cracks that love can flow in and out creating meaningful and authentic connections that will bring you greater joy. Let's draw an example. I will share a personal example for you. A lot of people say that I really open up and share and this is very important to me because I don't like secrets. I find them very painful. I'm going to share an episode in The future on this, but I am quite open with my thoughts and my feelings. And I am quite open with them because I know that I have so many people around me. And so many practices that helped me soften the edges soften the cracks, that allows greater light to shine through. And I feel that when I share my stories, they are self healing for me. And I think that is a really powerful aspect to group counseling, to friendships, to sharing with your family, friends, or professional or coach, that when you name it, you can claim it. Through a situation that happened a couple of weeks ago, I was in an uncomfortable conversation with somebody close to me. And guess what I wanted to leave, I didn't want to stay, I didn't want to stay in the conversation. I didn't want to stay in the room. And I've talked about this before, that sometimes you need to take a little breath and collect yourself. But I didn't want to stay in the same vicinity, I wanted to get in the car and leave far away, I realized that that was not serving me I was running away. The crack was I didn't want to deal with a very painful emotional situation that required me to be soft, and to allow loving. And this is the crack that I noticed, I noticed a pattern in myself that I do run away from hard times now, do I Oh, it's absolutely not. But sometimes if they're very intense or overwhelming, my first source of action is to flee. And when I softened into noticing that, and recognizing that in myself, then I cracked open because I allowed awareness into my consciousness to see a pattern that was not serving me nor others. And through that, I could offer myself self compassion, recognizing that it was a hard emotion to stay with, to take deep breaths. And to really offer myself self love. It was not easy. Let me tell you, my anxiety was through the roof, absolutely through the roof. But there is a practice called Breathe in and breathe out, breathe in to receive and breathe out to send. And so I breathe in loving kindness for myself. And I breathed out loving kindness to the other person. And guess what? It wasn't helping. So guess what, I changed my breath. I breathe in several bras for loving kindness to myself for being in a painful place. And then I read that one breath to the other person. I noticed that I needed more loving kindness, to hold space for all my emotions within me in order to be more empathetic to the other person. And so, through breath, through holding space through softening, I gave myself more loving kindness and self compassion and some to the other person because you know, of course when we only live for ourselves that is, it's not how we're supposed to live, we're part of a whole organism, we're part of a whole universe. So even if it's off balance, even for a little bit,

Linda Orsini: 00:14:09

just stay with it. And then you can create more balance, but sometimes you really need to fill your own cup. You really need to offer yourself space, time and silence in order to heal. In any case, I hope this makes sense to you that when we have cracks instead of brushing them over with fleeing with food with shopping with drugs or alcohol, or with something to just cover the crack, you may want to consider allowing the light to get bigger in order to soften the crack and just diminish the cracks. As I wrap up here today, I invite you to honor your cracks. Not easy I know. But if you can, and if you can start with the small cracks, by paying attention, noticing, giving yourself loving kindness, self compassion, then they are portals to love. They are reminders that you are deserving of love and connection, just as you are. No one expects you to be perfect. And you can always go back to a situation or to a person and have the discussion with them. If you are in a place of loving kindness, I feel this is my perspective. I feel that I can heal the past in the present.

Linda Orsini: 00:15:57

So by accepting and loving yourself, crack CINAHL you can create a space for others to do the same. Thank you for joining me today on a call for love. Remember, you are imperfect. And that's where the beauty of love resides. Embrace it. Notice it is part of the human experience. There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in. From my heart to yours. Namaste.

Linda Orsini: 00:16:33

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